The most challenging relationships are often the most important.
When we enter this world, we usually have two parents shaping us. We are basically blank computers and everything we hear and observe forms our programs.
Now, as a parent myself, I can confidently say that we all make mistakes. We are human, after all, and babies do not come with manuals. These errors in judgement mean that our programming – our beliefs about ourselves and the world – is not accurate, yet it is how we continue to move through life.
Humans are also tribal beings and need a sense of community and belonging. Often our beliefs complicate this, and many of us have feelings of not being good enough, unworthiness and not fitting in. Because our programming is subconscious, we often point the finger at the person who made us feel that way, even though it is a deep belief of our own. Those challenging people can be the best ones for us if we are self-aware because they are showing us where we need to work on ourselves.
When we surround ourselves with people who support us, the world is our oyster. We can do almost anything. These people boost our confidence and give us courage. With teamwork and community, we can do a lot more than what we can on our own. Having those that cheer us on helps us to believe that everything is working in our favour. We feel safe in our vision and can leave our cocoon to become the butterfly.
When others believe in us, we believe in ourselves. From this space, we can fulfil our dreams and live our purpose. The power of a community means we have support in areas we may not be so efficient. This means we are free to do what we are best at and share our wisdom.
What goes around comes around, too. Within a support network, we can provide for others and cheer them on. The ability to give back provides us with a sense of worth and belonging. We are reminded that we are wanted and needed and feel contentment.
There is something empowering about being with like-minded people. Especially when they say, “Me too!”. These relationships create confidence.
A community can be your family, a circle of friends or a business or social group.
The old ways of the world are dying and bringing in the new. People are realising how separated we have become and are coming together. There are communities forming everywhere from sharing properties, to community gardens, to social gatherings.
In some ways, we are rewinding the clock right back to the days of bartering as people exchange products and services. Others share their excesses with those who have less.
This new year of 2022 is all about relationships, community, support and being humanitarian. A long way from the divide that has been created with masks, vaccines and lockdowns. But those things raised the awareness of this necessary solution. A bit like the way those ‘bad’ relationships point out to us where we need to do our own work.
2022 is also about living your purpose and creating your vision. There is no going back to ‘normal’. We are too far away from that now. It is time to choose. How do you really want to live your life? Start taking steps towards what it is that you want and trust.
And find your community. Or start your own 😉 If you would like some guidance, reach out. I am here for you.